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MamaMansa · 07-11-2008, 10:14 AM

I did this week's reading, and am making headway on finishing the book. This is a big accomplishment for me, because I am really good at starting books, but not so good at finishing them.

I had one small success this morning. What might have turned into an argument with my 11-year-old this morning, didn't.

We have my 15-year-old cousin staying with us, and she is sleeping on the sofa bed in our living room. The kids were up and making more noise than I would have liked, so I said softly, "Shhhhh, C is still sleeping" and my daughter (who was already frustrated with me) walked off and said "you shhhh." Instead of getting angry, I followed her and got her attention. I said, "Saying 'you shhhh' is not respectful. If you are frustrated with me, you need to use words to tell me." She apologized right away and explained her frustration.

In my head, I was thinking......that happened too easily, what's the catch? LOL.

After the fact, though, I realized that "shhhhhh" isn't really usable, assertive instruction.

I should have said something like, "C is still sleeping. Please use your quiet voices so she won't wake up before she's ready."

07-11-2008, 10:14 AM	#7
MamaMansa Deactivated Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 1,333	Re: ETLDTD -week 2, day 5 -- 7/11/8 I did this week's reading, and am making headway on finishing the book. This is a big accomplishment for me, because I am really good at starting books, but not so good at finishing them. I had one small success this morning. What might have turned into an argument with my 11-year-old this morning, didn't. We have my 15-year-old cousin staying with us, and she is sleeping on the sofa bed in our living room. The kids were up and making more noise than I would have liked, so I said softly, "Shhhhh, C is still sleeping" and my daughter (who was already frustrated with me) walked off and said "you shhhh." Instead of getting angry, I followed her and got her attention. I said, "Saying 'you shhhh' is not respectful. If you are frustrated with me, you need to use words to tell me." She apologized right away and explained her frustration. In my head, I was thinking......that happened too easily, what's the catch? LOL. After the fact, though, I realized that "shhhhhh" isn't really usable, assertive instruction. I should have said something like, "C is still sleeping. Please use your quiet voices so she won't wake up before she's ready."

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