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Old 04-05-2005, 08:42 PM   #3
UltraMother
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Default Re: what made you change?

I did ap from the start when they were babies, but I moved into the traditional approach when they became toddlers. Little things clued me in, here and there (like seeing different families who spanked for EVERYTHING and my dad wanting to swat MY baby's exploring hands), but I totally bought into the idea that spanking=Christian, even though my heart kept telling me the truth. I only saw the two extremes of punitive/permissive. I also read a few Pearl books, and even though I did not practice his methods fully, his way of thinking stuck in my brain. I had a very hard time reconciling what I felt and what I thought. I can't remember how I found the original GCM site, but it was so validating to read these messages, and realize that I could follow what my heart was telling me and still be a loving Christian parent who was confidently in charge of my children.
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