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Old 06-27-2005, 08:36 AM   #12
esthermgr
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Default Re: Bean Dip

I find that I struggle with wanting to convince people that I am right and/or that there is a "right" way to do things. (Especially with people who I'm very close to, like my sister who just had a baby). One thing that has helped me is to remember the instances when I was all fired up about doing something one way, and then had to adjust and be flexible because it just wasn't right for my baby. Like when my milk supply got low and I had to give my son supplemental formula bottles for a while. I cried and cried, but it helped me understand why I shouldn't judge mothers who aren't exclusively breastfeeding.

I also think about the so-called experts who have insisted on giving me advice (with the best of intentions) that, when followed, turned out to be disastrous for my individual child.

I do feel that I should say something when a parent is doing something out of ignorance that is immediately and truly dangerous to a child, like shaking a baby or not buckling a baby in a car seat for car trips. Those are cases that for me are as clear-cut as pulling a child out of the way of a speeding train. But the other stuff, I try to remind myself that I don't know everything about each individual case, and remember how heartsick I felt when people would make judgemental comments when they saw me sit down and give my son a bottle when inside it was already killing me.
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