[EMama]

DS pulled this book off the bookshelf today. I can't remember when I got it/why I have it and I don't know that I ever read it, but I glanced through it out of curiosity. This is supposed to be a book about marriage. Here is a quote from page 28:

"The mothers who employed me [as a babysitter] were firm about one thing: after you put the baby to bed, do not get her up again. If she cries, let her cry. After twenty minutes, if she was still crying, I could check that the baby was okay and pat her back. But I could not get her up out of bed.
This was the best training I could have received. When Jay and I had our first child, I remembered this training...This process of allowing our baby to cry drove Jay crazy! He desperately wanted to go in and get Torrey out of bed, rock him, feed him, coddle him. I said no and was firm about it."

First, , this book is going in the trash for that reason (and because prior to that they talked about the whole "marriage first, children second" twistedness).

Second, this is the second time I've come across how the husband didn't want to let a baby CIO, but the wife did, and thought that was interesting. I suppose it's partly personality styles, where a mother overrides her mothering sensitivity and a father shows more compassion??