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when my children were younger I had to insert myself into the cleaning situation and oversee and direct as a group thing - I would give assignments that allowed me to help one at a time. so I might be helping someone do something that would be tough for them, but I might also need to repeatedly get someone else back on task. I just make sure enough people are doing things easy for them that they don't need me standing over them. If multiple children need lots of help then I have them all help me with something so I can be directing them all.

Wanting them to be independent did nothing but frustrate me and them

I stopped for my own sake and then I saw it help them

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I also had to let go of age as a determination of what they should be able to do and look at what they could do and just go with that. that was the reality

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11-23-2015, 11:40 AM	#4
ArmsOfLove Rose Garden Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 79,607	Re: Brainstorming help, please! when my children were younger I had to insert myself into the cleaning situation and oversee and direct as a group thing - I would give assignments that allowed me to help one at a time. so I might be helping someone do something that would be tough for them, but I might also need to repeatedly get someone else back on task. I just make sure enough people are doing things easy for them that they don't need me standing over them. If multiple children need lots of help then I have them all help me with something so I can be directing them all. Wanting them to be independent did nothing but frustrate me and them I stopped for my own sake and then I saw it help them ---------- Post added at 10:40 AM ---------- Previous post was at 10:38 AM ---------- I also had to let go of age as a determination of what they should be able to do and look at what they could do and just go with that. that was the reality __________________ Crystal "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." Maya Angelou

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