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Old 03-19-2010, 08:27 PM   #14
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Default Re: Kirk Cameron and Ted Tripp

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I understand that there are a great deal of ladies here who find even the mere concept of spanking so repugnant that it is impossible to see those who advocate it as anything but monsters themselves writing child abuse manuals and I agree with that in regards to the Pearls due to my own experience.
There are shades of gray to much in life and this is no exception. I don't equate Tripp and Pearl - very few people do I put in the same category as Michael Pearl. But I do think that Tripp teaches some ideas that are illogical and damaging. I will give credit where due - he does spend a lot of time talking about the need for relationship with your children. I am thrilled that he sees the Pearl's teachings for the twisted mess that they are and that he is helping families recover from it.

BUT, his writing still must stand for themselves. While teaching about relationship in parenting he also teaches two very distrubing concepts - 'spank them 'til they're sweet' (my words, not his), which is the idea that requires a child to fake an emotion pleasing to the parent to avoid more physical pain; and the concept of the 'heart to bottom connection'. If we could change someone's heart by beating them, lets start with the adults - but we can't and that is not how Christ taught us to relate to people. I could almost understand someone who claims a pure behavior modification motivation for spanking over a teaching that proports that pain can change the motivations of a child's heart.

If you have a personal relationship with Ted Tripp and would be willing to ask him about the two above concerns, I would love to hear what he has to say. Otherwise, we have to evaluate an author on his words and discern their value or potentially negative consequences on that alone.
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