[Beth1231]

Originally Posted by PurpleButterfly

You've been through a ton, too. Becoming a mama, and having to learn motherhood under the circumstances you've dealt with since she was born, well, you deserve some extra nurturing, too. Be gentle on yourself and know that you're a wonderful mama and a good wife. The first years are the hardest IME and soon you will be in a lovely new home and gettin' your groove back. Hang in there and do the best you can to enjoy the ride, sweet mama.

Thank you . I try so hard to be a good Mama. Now that I have her with me....and out of daycare....it seems like the guilt of "did I cause that fear/insecurity?" is just 100xs more than ever before.

TuneMyHeart, that is awesome advice. For some reason, I never thought about getting a bed that one of us could cuddle with her on tough nights when we need to. Anina sleeps with one of us while the other parent goes to the couch (small bed) on tough nights already so that makes sense.

The mattress on the floor is something I'm pondering too. We want to have another baby, though and I do not want my Anina waking up when the newborn in our room is waking up. That sounds like a nightmare to me. Thank you for the replies....they are helping!

ETA: Clara, I posted before I read your post. I love the body pillow idea! I still nap with her (for about half of her nap), so I know she would like that.
Editing again to say we do have a pretty good routine going. I'm hoping that will help with the bed transition.

I'm not sure how moving should mesh with the transition to a bed......one thing at a time, I would guess.