[rainangel85]

Kiara: I haven't noticed clumsiness, though she still has pee accidents from time to time. Getting her potty trained took years and I never really sure when we "arrived." Now she is 95% potty trained during the day. [Not sure yet how to direct the response to a specific poster ]

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THANK YOU ALL for your advice. I feel encourage to lighten up on her, work on myself, and take a closer look at what is going on. I'll keep everyone's advice in mind. I appreciate every response. I love the advice about letting her fiddle with something and other ways to get the energy out. I also agree it is partially a fear response. I need to cut down on the length of my addresses and practice working on one simple thing at a time. Boy this will be hard for me.

I feel most encouraged by the idea that it could still be age-appropriate and/or grown out of. I'll have to work on grace to not crack down too hard on the annoying behaviors. It's so hard to feel like I'm getting through; I just want her full attention and an obedient response that feels respectful.

QUESTION: She very periodically likes to belt out songs or some sort of annoying yell in PeeWee Herman or worse type voices. VERY loudly. She does not seem aware of how intrusive this is, as she is just being herself. Instead of yelling at her, I came up with a volume button. I get her attention gently and mime turning down the volume. She responds instantly. But with all the comments about letting it all out at home, I wonder if this is wrong of me, as it seems to be an ongoing drive in her to let out loud noises and this is yet another constant correction coming her way. Should I get imaginary earmuffs...or consider it gentle training in socially appropriate behavior? It REALLY bugs me, and I don't want my two-year-old twins to learn inappropriate behavior.