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thequietwater · 09-28-2016, 08:38 AM

Thank you so much for these steps...they were an answer to prayer as we moved toward gentle Biblical parenting...before we knew it existed! My question is wether or not you have a picture or diagram available of the Bear Hug. My three yr old will try to bite my arms and kick and slide out of this hold...then proceed to kick or hit me or my husband if we release him to allow him to just try to cool off without the hold. I'm not sure if we're doing it wrong. If not, what do you recommend we do. He is a very strong willed spirited boy...exceptionally loving and cuddly when happy with you...and physically hurtful and loud when he can't have what he wants. I will say that your first four steps have reduced the need for some type of restraint to stop him from hurting others...but when it happens...I am stuck. Thanks for any advice you can give.

09-28-2016, 08:38 AM	#89
thequietwater Newly Planted Join Date: Sep 2016 Posts: 1	Re: The Five Steps Thank you so much for these steps...they were an answer to prayer as we moved toward gentle Biblical parenting...before we knew it existed! My question is wether or not you have a picture or diagram available of the Bear Hug. My three yr old will try to bite my arms and kick and slide out of this hold...then proceed to kick or hit me or my husband if we release him to allow him to just try to cool off without the hold. I'm not sure if we're doing it wrong. If not, what do you recommend we do. He is a very strong willed spirited boy...exceptionally loving and cuddly when happy with you...and physically hurtful and loud when he can't have what he wants. I will say that your first four steps have reduced the need for some type of restraint to stop him from hurting others...but when it happens...I am stuck. Thanks for any advice you can give. Last edited by thequietwater; 09-28-2016 at 08:41 AM.

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