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mamaKristin · 12-02-2005, 09:44 PM

My MIL is um..not quite totally gently pushing us to "get DS potty trained". I would love for it to happen, but I'm not totally sure about the methods she is encouraging us to use. Problem is, I can't quite articulate WHY I don't like them. Need some feedback.

To get my niece *trained*, MIL (and her daughter, my SIL) decided to push her by removing all her privileges for tv and taking all her toys away. She earned tv watching and toy use by going in the toilet. When she had an accident, one was a *freebie*, but after that she had to return a privilege. Also, she used food reward for my nephew and is wanting to do that with DS. This all *smells bad* to me, but I can't quite put words to why I don't like it. My SIL (mom of the niece and nephew in question) works in a preschool with both regular and special needs kids and apparently uses "all sorts of behavioral modification methods" with the kids. Really, though, is this the best way to go? I know that in essence, lots of what we do is behav mod, but do these methods sound adverserial to anyone else?

12-02-2005, 09:44 PM	#1
mamaKristin Rose Garden parenting better than I garden Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: just here :) Posts: 26,586	behavioral modification thoughts? My MIL is um..not quite totally gently pushing us to "get DS potty trained". I would love for it to happen, but I'm not totally sure about the methods she is encouraging us to use. Problem is, I can't quite articulate WHY I don't like them. Need some feedback. To get my niece trained, MIL (and her daughter, my SIL) decided to push her by removing all her privileges for tv and taking all her toys away. She earned tv watching and toy use by going in the toilet. When she had an accident, one was a freebie, but after that she had to return a privilege. Also, she used food reward for my nephew and is wanting to do that with DS. This all smells bad to me, but I can't quite put words to why I don't like it. My SIL (mom of the niece and nephew in question) works in a preschool with both regular and special needs kids and apparently uses "all sorts of behavioral modification methods" with the kids. Really, though, is this the best way to go? I know that in essence, lots of what we do is behav mod, but do these methods sound adverserial to anyone else?

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