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I am a reformed spanker, but I was a more "passionate" spanker as opposed to a "methodical" spanker. Subsequently, my kids have learned to lash out when angry. They do not "spank" each other. We used to be good friends with methodical spankers, and I can't tell you how many times their dd spanked my kids. She always did it with this twinkle in her eye and a kind of smirk. Then she would insist she was just playing. It seemed almost like she was hiding something. She was upset at someone, so she spanked them, but covered up her upset by pretending it was all a game. My kids just get upset. They sometimes hit (usually not friends, but each other) when they are angry or frustrated, just like their mommy used to do. I do not like that my children have these negative behaviors, but at least we can all talk about how we feel...how we are angry and our actions were wrong. It feels honest at least. The Pearl people seem to be living with hidden emotions.

The Pearl's psychology is inadequate and dangerous. Modeling is a HUGE player in behavior learning.