I definitely think that is the balance
One of the most important parts of GBD is being proactive. That's how grace works.
"For God so loved the world that He gave . . . "
"While we were yet sinners God . .. "
God saw the problem and moved to fix it before we even knew we had a problem.
When we focus on telling our children what TO do, preparing them for situations and equipping them with how to respond, scripting, emotional validation, do overs, life skills for calming down and regrouping, and how to ask for help, along with all of the other things that GBD is about teaching them, we set them up for success and *prevent* problems.
Yes, it's hard work following a 3yo around and helping them clean up their own messes, but it's much easier than following a 13yo around and dealing with their messes! If they got the skills at 3 then 13 is that much easier.