[J3K]

My issue with "Family Gets the Best or No One Get the Rest" is that it leaves no room for "being at home". You have to be on your best manners all the time. And that's wearing. I'm 41 years old. I like knowing I can come home and let my hair down. I can be ME. The sometimes cranky introvert who likes to paint her nails and watch tv. Gearing up to go out is stressful. I do it , I have to , but I don't like it. I get ready , put on my game face and head out the door. I'm polite , I'm sociable, I may be cranky a bit , but I'm for the most part , agreeable.
Then I know I have HOME to come back to. Where I can put on my sweat pants and just chill.

This notion that I have to be "on" while at home , that I must be perfect and behave all the time or my outside friends get taken away....it's odd. And a bit cruel.

Sometimes outside friends (even though I hate getting out) are the only things holding me to sanity. The idea I must be the perfect mother to my kids all week , the perfect wife to my husband before I'm allowed out....it doesn't translate.

Likewise for a child...their outside time may be refreshing. It may be stressful to get there..but that's what family is for. They KNOW you , they make allowances.

To the disrespect : "I hear your frustration , your words are rude. I won't listen to it."

To the scheduling : Here's your calendar. I'll help you if you want , write down what you need done before practices...

And if it looks to be too much on his plate , help him navigate that too.