[Petie]

We don't miss activities, for a couple of reasons.

1. The kids made a commitment to that activity and following through, is in itself self discipline.

2. I paid money for the activity and it will not be wasted.


With that said, other things are optional. For instance, no one says he has to go outside to play with friends, or go to the store with mom where he can help pick things out. So for us, it's the optional things that they miss out on.

In regards to the attitude about doing his work, I would simply say, "OK buddy, no math now, how about grammar instead, then later we can do math." Yes, it's putting it off, but it's giving him that out and then later, you bring it out to work on it. Or, you could say, "hey, we need to do x,y,z for school today, which do you want to do first." He may just be feeling out of control and you need to account for that and give him control where ever you can.