Chris , I have a child that often says things like "i don't care" or "I know what you said , I'm not doing it.".
My response is always "Then we have a bigger issue here. Your heart is in a bad place. Such a good heart to be locked in such a bad place. "
I usually get this as a response "oh."
sometimes I'll get "I still don't care."
No matter the response to my statement the next thing we do is pray. Not always easy when you'd rather smack their lil faces.
Sometimes we pray together , sometimes we pray seperately. Just depends.
The prayer usually goes something like " Dear Jesus , we have a good child here. I am so very thankful you blessed me with such an awesome child. We've got a problem with some heart issues. I know that we can't change the heart on our own ,that we need you to do it. Please help change *name's* heart. Thank you . Amen."
And then I repeat what started the whole thing. What ever direction that was. Example :Now then, we both know that hearts don't change immediately , but we need to make effort. A good start is helping me do the dishes right now. Let's go."
Hope that helps a wee bit.