Re: Discussion of "Dealing With Disappointment" by Elizabeth Crary
Quote:
Originally Posted by HummusDip
Quote:
Originally Posted by canadiyank
The nature of feelings:
Feelings are okay All feelings are acceptable. They can be expressed in helpful or harmful ways.
|
Can you explain this more? How is something like whining acceptable?
|
Not canadiyank, but ... whining is not a feeling, it's a behavior. The idea is that we should validate emotions but work with the child to figure out more appropriate ways of expressing those emotions. So if my child is whining, the emotion behind it might be frustration or disappointment. It's okay for her to feel those things, but not helpful to express them through whining.
__________________
Jeanette
Married to J, 5/98
M, our much-loved dd #1, born 8/03 (C-section)
B, our long-awaited dd #2, born 11/28/08 (natural VBAC)
|