I ECed my first from 5 weeks on. I ECed my preemie in the NICU. I ssssed him. It helped me feel like he was mine in some tiny way. (because they really don't in the NICU in the beginning).
By 12 weeks, she didn't stool in her diaper anymore. She was still stooling 6 times a day at 6 months though! At 12 months, starting squatting to stool. No stool issues until 36 months when we came home with newborn/preemie brother and I fed her poorly. She got constipated. It was awful and a years-long healing.
I ECed her about hourly during the day.
She liked to nurse while peeing. So the insert out of a little potty works for sitting at the couch. I often just nursed her in the bathroom and put her bum over the toilet as I was in there for crazy milk supply anyway. (milk sprayed everywhere)
Not consistently day trained until about 28? months. We moved internationally when she was 24 months and that set her back a bit.
I was fine with that because it seems like early enough for me. Certainly not "early" but not as late as what is now common in the US. I am just done washing cloth by then, and I think the vast majority of kids *could* be ready then if other factors align (mom is ready, etc!).
With my 2nd, I mostly just offered when I was changing his diaper. He was only stooling once a WEEK!!! when he came home from NICU. Nice to catch that doozy in the sink (yep). Then I toilet papered it into the toilet. Deep cleaned sink if we had visitors coming. (rare)
He refused to EC from 12-24 months. Potty trained in one day at 24 months. Almost no accidents. Put him in undies and left house. Offered bathroom at all our stops (grocery store, library).
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With this new one, I *plan* to EC in the day and forget the nights unless it calms bloody murder screaming. My little sister's baby doesn't seem bothered by peeing her pants (what I call it when infants pee in their diapers-lol) at all. A more sensitive child might be bothered.
I plan to start out with only offering when I am already changing diaper (which is pretty often for me with newborn......I do remember that my first often stooled 3 times in quick succession when in diapers. Seemed to get it all out at once when ECed. Better positioning?)
I'm sure I own most of the books. Maybe just see which ones the library has. They probably have at least one.
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I mostly just want to focus on stooling this time because I think stooling in our pants is gross. At any age!