[WanderingJuniper]

On phone please excuse poor everything.
Smart mouthery - We do a way of engaging but not engaging th t diffuses the situation .
"You're a stinky toe sock monkey!" :P
Us: "I wonder how a sock monkey got to be so stinky and is it made from toe socks or does the sock monkey have toes?"
We aren't looking for real dialog just to Sigurd the tension of the situation. After the big feels connected to the tension pass I'll say something like "instead of calling me silly names to be funny or express your frustration please use kind respectful words."

It's tough because we would totally at silly name games in our family but I can also see how a child could do it in an intentionally disrespectful way. That said most 5 yo don't understand the power of their words and need instruction to learn a respectful way to interact using words.

The frustrated noise. I hear ya on this one. It's been a long time. I inc with my son on this and for the most part he is great about using words to express his frustration but even know I he is tired or has been pushed past his limit too many times he'll grit whine yell. Keep correcting and connecting. It's a slow process but it does yield positive results down the road.