I agree with the pp. I would not support the Pearls or Ezzo's simply because they are distorting the Word of God and leading many people astray.
I dont bad mouth them, but I also do not support, endorse, or recommend their materials. I was one of those people who thought I knew what I believed about child-rearing, after all I had been brought up in a gentle home, had worked with children for years, had taken many many courses on child development, how to discipline without hitting, ect. I worked in a daycare where Becky Bailey's materials were available. BUT after reading these type of books, was lead in the wrong direction in the name of Christianity. I fought with my mother (who was abused as a child and therefore never laid a hand on us) about spanking, she could not believe I'd ever hit my children. Unfortunatly I bought into the whole thing, believing that these 'experts' knew more about the bible than I did. It is a daily struggle to change my thinking now. I wish I never had read those books. I wish well meaning friends had never given them to me. I wish people would realize how dangerous they could be and stopped supporting them so that no one else is lead astray. Thankfully, by the grace of God, I found out about AP and GBD again in the last few weeks of my pregnancy. God got to me just in time! And thankfully I realized before I had my daughter that those methods were abusive, yes, even if followed exactly as the book says, they are child abuse. Please please dont feel as though I am being ugly,
I assure you that is not my intent, it is just that this is so near to my heart, because I didn't think I could buy into something so horrible, yet after reading the books I did. That is why I would never support them.
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INFJ/INTJ DYT 4 Wife to Alan, Mama to Abby 3/05, Ella 2/08, and Julianna 10/10
“Only the weak are cruel. Gentleness can only be expected from the strong.”
Leo Buscaglia