[BeckaBlue]

I'm glad you've decided to check this out!I can't say myself that IKWYM w/ the 5 steps because i've never demanded immediate obedience, but when we work through the steps i tell them one "you need to come here" no please or i want because that leaves a choice open, they need to come. if they don't respond quickly (i generally count to 3 in my head) i tell them "i need you over here, do you need me to help you get over here" and then count out loud to them if they still don't respond i get up, take their hand, and help walk them wherever they need to be. If it causes a melt down, we'll do bear hugs, but generally it doesnt. the only difference i see is that im not goingover to whack em, just to help them do as they were told when they don't think they can. I think the steps work differently in each family, but it's one tool that is helpful and helps with my patience
If there's ever a time that the must come immediately i do not spend time on it, I go over to them while saying "you need to come to me NOW" and get them over to me immediately eithrer with my helping hand or with the sound of my imperative voice


ah, Rebcca posted while I did, I would agree, the steps aren't *as* helpful with my 6yo, but i do find use in them even still with her