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10-30-2005, 03:50 PM

I'm glad you're doing this!

In the section about welcoming an abuser back to your home, please mention that you know a woman (me) who's grandfather sexually molested her. Any woman who welcomes her abusive husband back to her home is only opening the door to having her grandchildren abused.

Also, my folks would give us kids extra hits if we resisted when we were spanked. This did not cause us to love our parents more, it didn't cause us to love God more, it did not make us more Godly or save our souls. It made us hate our parents. It DEFINITELY provoked us to wrath, albeit a silent wrath because we learned we dared not express any emotion in our home other than happiness. I do not recall all the reasons why I was spanked. I do recall hating my parents because of it, and can still feel the hatred festering within me because of it. No, I don't hate them now, I've forgiven them (to myself, they won't discuss it), but I do recall how it felt to hate that much.

10-30-2005, 03:50 PM	#3
Tulip_Plus_3 Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Drafting a letter to my MOPs group about Pearls I'm glad you're doing this! In the section about welcoming an abuser back to your home, please mention that you know a woman (me) who's grandfather sexually molested her. Any woman who welcomes her abusive husband back to her home is only opening the door to having her grandchildren abused. Also, my folks would give us kids extra hits if we resisted when we were spanked. This did not cause us to love our parents more, it didn't cause us to love God more, it did not make us more Godly or save our souls. It made us hate our parents. It DEFINITELY provoked us to wrath, albeit a silent wrath because we learned we dared not express any emotion in our home other than happiness. I do not recall all the reasons why I was spanked. I do recall hating my parents because of it, and can still feel the hatred festering within me because of it. No, I don't hate them now, I've forgiven them (to myself, they won't discuss it), but I do recall how it felt to hate that much.

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