[mommy2abigail]

Obedience is a choice. Choosing to obey the first time is something I would love my children to do. However, it is NOT developmentally appropriate. In order to truly choose to obey, there must be understanding (thanks to Crystal for that bit of truth!) and a 2 year old just is not able to comprehend the why's of a lot of things.

I do think though, that you words should mean something. So if your limit is count to three and then she needs to unlatch, you have to help her make it happen. Most 2 year olds will not willingly give up the nursies after all, it's what they have come to know as love and comfort and a band aid! It IS your body though, and it's healthy for you to set boundaries and stick to them. This is not a matter of first time obedience, because honestly, on this matter, she can not obey right away yet. She lacks the understanding of why you feel differently about nursing her now, and why you need her off right now. I went through this with dd1, and it was very very hard. I know she felt my discomfort, and in turn, would seek to comfort herself at the breast, so it was a never ending circle. I did set boundaries and stuck to them, and it helped a lot. I didn't want to end up weaning on a bad note, with me totally touched out and frustrated. It wouldn't have been fair to dd. So I set some boundaries we could both live with and it went much smoother. HTH some, I totally feel your pain and frustration.