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Originally Posted by gentlemommy
I don't think it's punitive to tell them how you feel about it. I *do* think it can be punitive and shaming to say, "Oh, how horrible!" or "That's so sad!"
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What if this is your honest reaction, though? I want to show grace to others who do things I disagree with--but I don't think an honest, "That makes me sad to hear that," lacks grace. It's not like saying, "You're bad for doing that. I don't want to be around those who do such things." That would be punitive and shaming.
I think because hitting kids is soooo culturally accepted (and expected), it loses its shock value after awhile. But I don't think it's wrong to react with shock when that is what is felt.