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shirelingmum · 06-25-2012, 03:04 PM

one of the mamas in my community group (from church) was talking about how her little guy was walking at 9 months and he wouldn't stop touching everything (natural, right?)...so she said that she just "resorted to pain" to teach him to not touch things

...i was shocked (but not completely because though they practice some natural parenting stuff they are extremely punitive

) and didn't even say a word to her after that. I just averted my eyes and started talking to my husband. I didn't even know what to say because I was so sad and hurt that she would actually resort to doing that in the first place...but even moreso to "get her point across" to an innocent little boy who doesn't even understand why she's doing what she's doing...he just knows that he wants to explore and mommy keeps flicking, slapping and whatever else she feels is okay.

I am learning not to use threats or swats myself...so I think stuff like this just catches me off guard...especially in Christian circles. I. don't. get. it.

should i have said anything? she's slightly older than i am.
from what i have observed i believe she actually uses training techniques from TTUAC...which makes me

even more for her.

06-25-2012, 03:04 PM	#1
shirelingmum Rose Bouquet "My lips will praise You!" Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Pacific Northwest (otherwise known as Middle Earth) Posts: 567	I Was Shocked.... one of the mamas in my community group (from church) was talking about how her little guy was walking at 9 months and he wouldn't stop touching everything (natural, right?)...so she said that she just "resorted to pain" to teach him to not touch things ...i was shocked (but not completely because though they practice some natural parenting stuff they are extremely punitive) and didn't even say a word to her after that. I just averted my eyes and started talking to my husband. I didn't even know what to say because I was so sad and hurt that she would actually resort to doing that in the first place...but even moreso to "get her point across" to an innocent little boy who doesn't even understand why she's doing what she's doing...he just knows that he wants to explore and mommy keeps flicking, slapping and whatever else she feels is okay. I am learning not to use threats or swats myself...so I think stuff like this just catches me off guard...especially in Christian circles. I. don't. get. it. should i have said anything? she's slightly older than i am. from what i have observed i believe she actually uses training techniques from TTUAC...which makes me even more for her. __________________ Quirky hobbitwife to her bearded love since 2006 Mummy to 4 hobbitses and one little one born to heaven 9/23/10

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