[racheepoo]

When pill was about 5, I told him that I expected him to respond politely when people ask how he is or what his name was, and that I would then "rescue him" so he didn't have to make small talk. This helped him to learn to make polite chit-chat, which is really important in our society, but also helped him feel safe knowing he wouldn't have to go on and on (some people can be really intrusive with questions!). So, he started with telling his name when people asked, and his age. Then I would change the subject or say things like "nice talking to you, have to run" so that he wouldn't feel pressured. There were times, especially at first, that didn't work and he just felt really overwhelmed and I would just pass the bean dip and cover for him.

Even though he is still shy, he shakes people's hands and makes eye contact and says his name, age, and favorite subject in school...which seems to be the only thing adults want to know (borrring). He's 8 now.