[Marsha]

Originally Posted by Rose5000

Our kids love the show Wild Krats. It is on 2 times per day in our area. THe kids expect to watch it both time by default. The 2nd time is starting to cause problems and interfering with a schedule I am trying to create and enforce with my dc. How to "write it out of the schedule"--i.e. move away from it being the expectation that they will watch it at 4:30?

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Here are Dh's words , but they are a little intimidating to me. Would they be to you?
Or doyou have so much confidence you could pull this off? I don't know i just think well the way he paints the picture sounds like "you better not do it w-r-o-n-g!" do you hear that in these words of his?


"You would need to announce it formally.
Have a Family Meeting.
Tell about it before implementation time.
Something like "starting Monday..."
You have to replace it with something like [doing something fun with mommy during that time] [or some other preferred activity]
you cannot make it arbitrary.
you must be prepared for them digging in their heels
You must be determined to put up with whatever they give you.
YOU HAVE TO BE COMMITTED TO IT!!!!
It should be Firm, Thoughtful, Advanced Decision Making.
You must ask yourself Am I willing to be firm?
If not ---then don't even change it.
When the kids squawk, you can say, Remember? we had our meeting? this is the way it's going to be now.

I think what your dh said sounds fie. It's about the only way it's going to work. They won't NOT notice, and t hey deserve to be told in advance, and he's right about filling that time with something else fun and equally preferred. And he's right that they will backlash at you and you need to be prepared so you dont go all reactive, and swing punitive/permissive. It makes sense to me.