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Old 05-07-2012, 06:30 AM   #14
DoulaClara
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Default Re: DH slapped ds last night!

I agree, especially with the natural consequences part at that age. I remember my brother and his friend at five or six messing with the cats after we told them to leave them alone, and getting a scratch or two before figuring it all out. What kind of a dog is it? Are you concerned that it will get snappy and mean over time? Dogs and children really can be a great mix, or they can be an unholy disaster. Make sure the dog has clear escapes, and a place to go away from little pokey fingers. I'm also teaching my dog to escape when my two year olds form of love is too much, because she's a giant push over of a Lab mutt who would allow Pugsley to treat her like a trampoline if I don't train her to leave when he's being rough.

And your DH has come a far way from when you first started posting. It really is a total shift in thinking, so it really isn't as simple as telling him and having him jump right in with all the right things. So many times, all our spouses hear is, "No smacking, no shaming, now go get 'em, tiger!" I've had to model a skajillion times to my DH that we state a goal, and then we make it happen. My DH is finding that it's very tricky to view discipline as teaching, much like a math concept, just because he has a lot of things to unlearn, in terms of how he has previously seen children responded to. It's a continuum, and he'll get there! probably not exactly how you imagine, but a balance can be worked out.
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