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Old 09-12-2017, 12:46 PM   #12
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Default Re: A question for those who have kids with mild food sensitivities

How many days a week is the hybrid program?

My thought is that I would maintain GF at home for all dinners and breakfasts, but allow the sandwiches on a part-time basis at first...let her start the program with a "normal" lunch and keep a diary of symptoms. Let her know that she will be expected to take 1 naturally gluten-free lunch per ___(pick a reasonable amount of time)___. Assure her as she starts to complain that she can take a sandwich to the first day, but the longer the meltdown lasts, the more you'll consider rescinding the offer or shortening the time frame. Tell her that she can look at what other people are eating and request whatever yummy-looking goodness she wants that might get other people mildly jealous that she gets better food, or she can pretend that she ran out of bread, or whatever, but once a month or once a week or once every four classes, she's getting a naturally gf meal, so be ready to pick one without complaining.

After a while, when she's settled into a safe GF meal for those days, I'd try to get her to come up with a second or third choice to alternate. Then, with food diary in hand, I'd try to get her buy-in to replacing more of those sandwich meals with the GF ones. And when she starts yelling that it's not fair to change the rules, I'd tell her that I'd given her time to fit in and time to find options, but that I'm not willing for her to compromise her health over the long-term...that this was a temporary offer made out of consideration for her feelings, but not a sustainable one.

That's about the time I'd start talking about people in support groups suffering as adults Maybe sooner. And maybe with her personality, a temporary laxness might backfire. You can answer that better than I can. But my thought is that social anxiety is probably driving the resistance right now, and if symptoms are mild right now, I'd be willing to cheat a little to get her through this time period compliant rather than rebellious...getting her on more solid ground emotionally before trying to get her to buy-in for the long-term.

I don't know if that's the right strategy medically. I'm looking at it from more of a strong-willed perspective, and it may be that it's too dangerous to play that game. I'm just thinking that with her being old enough to circumnavigate you, I'd rather direct the cheating and limit it rather than try to be strict and have her blow it purposefully behind your back.
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