[On Fire]

Originally Posted by Tuesdayschild

I've now finished it, and this particular passage also left me although it is clear he did not hurt his son, or damage their connection in any way with this incident. What I also found worrying was that there didn't seem to be a lot of room for acknowledging feelings and helping kids develop emotional intelligence, a vocabulary to describe what they feel and told for expressing that in a healthy way. It's very much: are you going to be fun to be with or do you need to go away until you can be fun? So I didn't agree with that, and it actually bugged me a lot more than that one spanking example

Overall though, I would still highly recommend the book, especially as gateway book (as mentioned above) and a way to help people move out of the punitive mindset. He does the 'why-to' of that really really well, imho.

I'm hoping to appeal to the fact it's written by a male Christian who's not pro-punitive (as a 'gateway') and pro-connection for my DH for Christmas so ordered it this morning. My husband's read nothing/very little on parenting and says he 'doesn't read' (unless it's to pass his voluntary Fire Service exams lol). Some of Danny's posts on FB seem a bit inconsistent (perhaps a bit insensitive and lacking emotional intelligence).