[SewingGreenMama]

I've have the opposite problem, I tend to cut myself off from emotions (I think this is because my parents tended to belittle emotions and I had to hide them, peaceful calmness was the only acceptable emotion in spite of the bitter loud fighting they always participated in together) it is easy to say, "I'm sorry you don't like it, do it anyway." and far to often I at least think "Just get over it and do it" . Though I always give them a reason when it is possible, "You have to pick up your toys because we all live in this house together as a family and we all have to work together to make it a peaceful, comfortable home for everyone. Stepping on toys your not playing with is uncomfortable and leads to very UN-peaceful episodes." Though I usually say it in more 4 year old friendly terms.
But I have to be careful to not be harsh and belittling, I see times in the past where I have been so so often and I'm trying so hard to change that since discovering GBD and seeing some of the harmful patterns and disciplines I've been using. I'm begging God to let me cry with my son, to feel a little of his pain, because so often I feel numb and get annoyed because I don't understand how much it, whatever 'it' is, is affecting his poor little soul.
I guess I don't have any advise, just some sympathy from the other side of the spectrum.