[booboo]

Well, I used to like Dobson a lot. My dh and I decided we weren't going to spank because we both grew up in very dysfunctional homes. I bore the worst physically. (even in the home I grew up in - I got it the most) I was in the middle when it came to spanking. It's your decision, not mine kinda thing. Even Dobson has said that if you were abused as a child, you shouldn't spank, until you've come to the point where you've made peace with your past at least. But then one day I was listening to his show on spanking and it floored me. His arguments were so irrational. It sounded like he was taking things out of context. Then it was more and more against spanking. I never heard him give any other advice in discipline besides spanking, so it was like I can't go to him for advice. A friend of mine doesn't spank and said it's not Biblical. Somehow or another I learned of William Sears and borrowed his Discipline Book from the library. Within less than a week I bought it from the bookstore. He taught me things I never would've guessed growing up in the home I did. Like how to talk to your child. Things like "rewind" when the ball goes in the street. Awesome! He really believes in teaching your child the right way, not just go to your room, etc. Like why this behavior is wrong. He opened up my eyes!

Then a major debate in Crosswalk forums led me here. Bonny (are you still out there?) recommended this board last summer. In spite of my mess ups learning to be a gentle mom, in spite of bad advice I've given accidently, I know I'm accepted here. And I'm still learning so much! I can't say I've totally changed. I plan on getting Crystal's book sometime soon.

That's my story in a nutshell.