I am having a seriously hard time getting away from the "in trouble" mindset.
Re: the comfort corner...I'm referring to our area as the Chill Zone
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The problem is, we've referred to it all of once by that name (or any at all), and the other day when ds was wigging out, I sat down on the mattress and put my arms out to him and offered, "Come over here, Sweetie, can I help you settle down? Do you want to snuggle?" and I got (imagine almost un-understandable whine) "I don't WAAAANNNT to go to the chill zone!!!!!!! NOOOoooooooo!"
What gives? I've been pretty careful not to suggest helping him calm down in terms of punishment - just help - but he gets so negative/reactive that even suggesting a specific place to go somehow triggers a rant.