Thanks, everybody.
Yeah I will get that book and let her make another picture, any way she'd like.
I am so glad to have found this board. I don't want to be an abusive mom. I don't want to be like my parents were to me, yet I'm starting to see that pattern. Even my dh told me last night I'm a little too hard on them.
I see a counselor, and it's been helpful. I did go to the Clarkson's website and signed up for their emails. I truly want to learn to be a better mom. And I have Stormie Omartian's Power of a Praying Parent which I read at night and early mornings.