I'm so glad to have found this thread again...
DD has started to realize when her cousins get hit by my SIL... and she asked me... I was really at a loss...
When I brought it up with my spanking MIL, she said "Well, the answer is - because they deserve it!" UGH! Ummm... NOT! I said, "We've been raising Alex to believe that no one deserves to be hit, especially not by their parents." I realize this is rather simplistic, b/c obviously if someone is trying to abduct you, then it's okay to hit and scream and do whatever else you have to do... but this whole situation is rather icky...
I want to say "Aunt B- hits your cousins b/c she lacks self-control and doesn't know what to do with her anger..."
I know... I'm a horrible person...
Jacqui