SubarbanHippie

I was never big on spanking, but I was still punitive. I made threats, yelled, showed obvious frustration, provoked my son to anger, pinned unrealistic expectations on him, etc. I will never forget an incident in which I threatened to take all of my son's toys out into the yard and light them on fire if he didn't stop acting out. The look of fear and hurt on his face I will never forget. I actually broke down and cried and told him how sorry I was.

When I became a Christian, I knew I couldn't follow the fundamentalist, traditional approach like TTUaC, GKGW, BW, SaCH or tomato staking. The methodology and interpretation of the Scriptures never sat right with my spirit. I knew God was leading me in another direction. It was actually during a spanking debate on another forum I'm a member of that I found out about GOYBP and AoLFF, which lead me to here. I knew I'd found what it was I'd been trying to do all along, only I didn't have a name for it, a list of tools, a support system or a central clearinghouse of information on it.