[Kiara.I]

Originally Posted by gracechelle

Coming from BW, I'm always scared I'm messing with my baby's metabolism when I feed "off-schedule",

Oooooookay. Huh. I guess that's another one of Ezzo's particular...um...nuggets. Even adults are told that eating small frequent meals is better for their metabolism than eating 3 big meals. So you can probably relax on the metabolism front.

Originally Posted by gracechelle

It's kind of scary to think of never letting her cry --it makes me feel trapped --but I DO agree with not CIO!! Praying for God's wisdom for each nap

Like Loralee said, being an attached responsive parent does NOT mean she will never cry. It does mean you don't leave her to cry uncomforted in order to accomplish a goal (like having her fall asleep on her own.) I guarantee, she will cry. She will probably cry when you tell her she can't have her bread and peanut butter in her bed. Or whatever it is. Happy is NOT the only acceptable emotion for a child to have. They can be sad or angry, and it is not up to you as the parent to "fix" their emotions. You can offer comfort, but you don't have to make her happy. Does that make sense?

I'm not sure which part of it is triggering the trapped feeling for you. Can you pinpoint which bit it is?