Re: what made you change?
Many thanks to those who've responded so far. The reason I asked is that there is someone in my life who is very close to me and whose children I adore who I would love to influence. She spanks and uses other punitive methods of discipline, and often (I feel) fails to treat them with respect. I desperately want to see her change to a more positive outlook, but I want to be gentle and careful in approaching the situation. They are a Christian family and have used a book (author Shepard I think?? it's not one I've heard mentioned here before) which justifies spanking with the usual scripture passages. Of course every person is different, but through your responses, I'm hoping to gain a perspective on where she might be coming from and how best to gently communicate new ideas to her.
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