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Old 08-08-2005, 05:08 PM   #12
ArmsOfLove
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Default Re: Created To Be His Help Meet by Debi Pearl

Okay . . . here are some quotes from her online chapter of the book and she is describing the Command Man who she believes her dh to be. I am really surprised people consider this a description of a healthy dynamic:

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are known for expecting their wives to wait on them hand and foot. Most of them do not want their wives involved in any project that prevents them from serving him.
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It is awful being shut out. A woman married to a Command Man has to earn her place in his heart by proving that she will stand by her man, faithful, loyal, and obedient.
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She is on call every minute of her day. Her man wants to know where she is, what she is doing, and why she is doing it. He corrects her without thought. For better or for worse, it is his nature to control.
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The Command Man feels it is his duty and responsibility to lead people, and so he does, whether they think they want him to lead or not.
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A Command Man who has gone bad is likely to be abusive. It is important to remember that much of how a Command man reacts depends on his wife’s reverence toward him.
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In most marriages, the strife is not because the man is cruel or evil; it is because he expects obedience, honor, and reverence, and is not getting it, and thus he reacts badly.
And this lovely gem is followed by this one
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Of course, there are a few men who are so cruel and violent that even when the wife is a proper help meet, he will still physically abuse her or the children. In such cases, it would be the duty of the wife to alert the authorities so that they might become the arm of the Lord to do justice.
IOW abuse is to be expected if you aren't being a proper help meet but if you are then it's not okay

This wife is then warned that her command man dh will not take out the trash, have mercy on the sick and dying, or have any interest in hearing about her thoughts and ideas.

Regardless of your opinion about who should or shouldn't submit, this is a description of an abusive and controlling man :/

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