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Old 01-14-2011, 10:25 AM   #14
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Default Re: Strong-Willed Children Vs. Gentle Discipline

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Originally Posted by NewCovenantMama View Post
I am soooo glad we aren't doing punitive stuff with our "strong-willed" ds3.... I think he might well have responded to it by becoming almost unmanageable. As it is, he generally cooperates (though definitely in his own way).

That is PRECISELY what happened to Maximus.

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Originally Posted by babyb4us View Post
I know with my DH, the more we demand, the more he digs in his heals, He is definately a spirited child who feels/smells/hears things most of us don't even register. It is a lot for him to take in, and people pressuring him just adds to that which leads to more over-stimulation, which just doesn't end well. Letting him know he is loved, and heard, and helping him in his way is really the only way our family can function. Without gentle parenting, we would be in a constant powere struggle. I think he deserves more than that!
And this was me as a child.
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