I had one pretty serious "doubting" episode, too, after I had stopped spanking. It mainly sprung from the "If I'm right, then everyone else is wrong.. how can that be?" mindset, and also from the fact that I had looked up "shebet" in Strong's and there was, in fact, a literal meaning that referred to punishing.
I sat up one night looking at the rod verses... going through them one by one and looking over Joan's rod study. As I dug deeper I became more and more at peace with my initial decision to change.
Sorry this is happening..
It grieves me that so many Mommas here have had or are currnetly experiencing similar struggles with their church families.