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Old 05-09-2012, 01:04 PM   #8
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Default Re: How to give our children a chance of having a healthy self-esteem?

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Originally Posted by Aisling View Post
Value competency over praise. Truly. Offer lots of opportunities to do things by/for themselves, give plenty space for messing up/trying again, and focus on patience, unflappable problem solving. Offer positive feedback for effort and success, and don't be afraid to let them wreck things in the process. That's what childhood is for.

Model this also in your relationship with your spouse.


Everything else is gravy.
You are so right, and like the original poster it makes me realise why I'm still working on this in middle age......sigh....I still remember my mother taking a carrot out of my hands when I was married mother in my early twenties, and showing me how I was scraping it the wrong way

So yes, everything else is gravy, or in my case, scraped carrots......
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