Re: The reality of getting together with friends
I totally get it. I miss seeing my friends too. I have two very close friends who live nearby. We've been friends since elementary school. During the school year I don't see them. Pretty much ever. And they live 10-15 minutes away from me. They each have three young kids. I'm free in the afternoons, but they both have kids who are napping then (and no child care). I can't ever do anything in the evenings during the week because of dh's work schedule. I always feel weird asking people to do things on the weekends, because I feel like that is their family time to do things together. I'd love to get together with them and their kids on a Saturday morning while dh sleeps, but I feel like that's intruding on their family time.
During the summer I have gotten to see them a bit more around playdates with our kids. But that's not the same as just getting together as grown-ups, for sure. That maybe happens once a year with them.
Once in a while we get invited to another family's house for a Saturday evening dinner, though that's rare. It's terrible, but I hesitate to invite people over to our house (people from church) because they will likely stay really late. It's super hard to find any couples that dh and I both connect with. I can think of one couple, maybe two. So that makes it really hard- he doesn't really connect with my best friends' dhs. They are nice, but just have nothing in common with my dh. It is so isolating. I get it.
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