I know, I've had those thoughts before too. I haven't read Ezzo, but know a bunch who practically worship him so I've been a little influenced by him and have read Pearl. Occassionally I'll think ds or dd should/shouldn't be doing this or that because that what everyone says. But who cares if they want to try to feed themselves and they get messy.
The more you actually think about it the stupider (don't know if thats a word) a lot of that junk starts to seem.