((( Love_Monkey ))))
I go through phases where it's easier, and in the big picture, it's gotten a lot easier over time. But it's never a non-issue.
But, quite honestly, the things that make me punitive are all an intricate part of my flesh (Clay Clarkson talks about this a little in his book), and that's something we have to wrestle with daily... Seeing GBD that way--a daily dying to my flesh, rather than some state of being that I have to first acheive and then maintain--has really helped me to keep my perspective when I'm struggling and forgive myself when I fall short.