So glad you found us! And what a great post! I needed the reminders.
I've been here for about 14 years and I'm still not good at all of it, but have made gradual baby steps. Several years ago when my parents were visiting and I saw how my mom was with my kids, (not a lot of patience, not understanding big feelings of little ones), I realized how far I had come. Still quite a ways to go.
I liked "Siblings Without Rivalry" too but I suggest you should start with "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk".
Stick around and read here and read some books and you'll start making baby steps in the gentle direction.
(I'm also a yeller)
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Katherine, married 8-9-97
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