[milkmommy]

Why is it every other child now has a food sensitivity or autism spectrum disorder? Why is it every other baby has reflux? Mason was a screamy, spit-up-ish baby and every other mother told me, "He probably has reflux; you should put him on Zantac." When my first child was born and was screamy, nobody at all said, "she has reflux"; I never even heard the word until a few years ago.

What is your point. Reflux Autism etc are VERY real are you suggesting mammas here are using these things as excuses?? . I'll use my DD as an example.
We starte the PT process around age 2.5 we did everything by the book did rewards even took awy privleges because we were told it was up to us to make it happen. Yet nothing. We finially had to ask is there something medically wrong and had her tested and YES their is! Her brain does noot make the connection bran scans DON"T lie . Yet I still get people who tell me she should just be spanked or punished becaue shes manuplating me According to her nurlogist many many kids with this disorder end up abused because parents assume there just stubborn and assume its a power stuggle they must win.
Another issue food for the looongest time we had serious food issues a DD who eaither refused to eat to the point of starvation and vomiting up what she did take in. We tried everything from permissive to gracefull to punitive I'll admit didn't work. We finially got a dianoisis of her apraxia then we were able to get her the proper help an things have greatly improved.
All her diagnoises are real they are not excuses. We teach her to be the best she can be our standards are very high but we still have to face reality. I expect my DD not to say toss her food or go Ewww thats gross. She expected to sit with us and have appropiate manners. I expect her to coperate while I change her diaper and to help me know if shes wet/messy.
Do you think for example my child would magically not have these issues if we punished?

Deanna