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04-21-2005, 03:29 PM

Ruth.

I wish my mom got a clue when I was your girls ages (either 10 or 14, it doesn't really matter). You can't change the past, but you can change the here & now. And your dd's are going to need you in a big way to navigate puberty, boys, decisions about careers and marriage.

I would encourage you just to be frank with them - share your mistakes, what you wish you did better and talk to them about all the biggies like sex and why you think they should wait for marriage, not just don't do it. Boyfriends and what a waste of time they are. :P What to look for in a husband and how you want them to be treated by a husband. And encourage them to be gentle moms when their time comes. You *are* doing the right thing by coming here, getting informed & starting down this path. Your girls *are* going to benefit from your new found wisdom, just in a different way than you hoped.

04-21-2005, 03:29 PM	#9
Dizzy Blond Guest Posts: n/a	Re: How do I get 'past' this? Ruth. I wish my mom got a clue when I was your girls ages (either 10 or 14, it doesn't really matter). You can't change the past, but you can change the here & now. And your dd's are going to need you in a big way to navigate puberty, boys, decisions about careers and marriage. I would encourage you just to be frank with them - share your mistakes, what you wish you did better and talk to them about all the biggies like sex and why you think they should wait for marriage, not just don't do it. Boyfriends and what a waste of time they are. :P What to look for in a husband and how you want them to be treated by a husband. And encourage them to be gentle moms when their time comes. You are doing the right thing by coming here, getting informed & starting down this path. Your girls are going to benefit from your new found wisdom, just in a different way than you hoped.

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