Katherine

Even though your children are "older" and not babes in arms anymore... the changes in ideas you have had will affect them profoundly. As others have said, we all have regrets about what we didn't know or didn't do... I worry about negative long-term effects on my children, but I REJOICE that I found new ways of doing things before they went through an entire childhood full of my old beliefs and ideas.

My parents made choices that I am not following and do not agree with, but they LOVED us and did the best they could with what they knew... their love and committment to us was the glue that kept our family together even through tough times.

I am encouraged to think that when YOUR kids reach these same crucial points in their lives, there will be frank and helpful discussion.. that when they have their own kids you will be supporting them in AP and gentle parenting efforts... and that you will be an wonderful Grandmommy if God does bless you with grandchildren. Also, please don't be afraid to share your heart with others... you never know which "story" someone needs to hear... which approach will really make an impression on their heart and mind, so just be honest and share your experience.

One thing I fully intend to do when my kiddos are a bit older is to be a force for good (and the voice of AP/GD) in our church nursery. I want to pour out all the good things I've learned onto those new babies and young families...

I hope that God will encourage your heart this week and affirm that you are a blessing to the children you have.