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Originally Posted by DoulaClara
I think the punitive people I know who follow "gurus" are very regimented and anxious, too.
Myself, I'm an ENFJ. I don't know what that means in terms of my chances for following a path rigidly or molding it to fit, but I think my own disturbed childhood has shaped me far more. I have never and will never join some type of armed forces, couldn't be in a sorority, will never choose to take karate or anything that has me bowing to another person, and preferred jobs where I self-regulated, because I can't stand authority. I'm fairly certain my political beliefs favor this as well. And my parenting beliefs follow this as well (and possibly that's another form of rigidity...? Hmm...)
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Rejecting all external authority and clinging to internal authority is the flip side of rejecting all internal authority and clinging to external authority - both are rigid in their own ways, and I don't think either is healthy
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I do think an anxious internally focused person can latch onto a path - see it as The Answer - and cling to it against all external signs it's a bad idea. Which is *exactly* like an anxious externally focused person latching onto a path - seeing it as The Answer - and clinging to it against all internal signs it's a bad idea.
I was really speaking to both sides in my OP
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Eta: I do agree that Ezzo-style punitive tends to attract more regimented types. I don't think Pearls' brand necessarily does, though
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