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Originally Posted by EMama
this is the second time I've come across how the husband didn't want to let a baby CIO, but the wife did, and thought that was interesting. I suppose it's partly personality styles, where a mother overrides her mothering sensitivity and a father shows more compassion??
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that's how it was when we started and i was reading ezzo. i would be sitting there in the living room crying while the baby screamed and he would question me, 'are you sure this is the right thing to do?' and i was commited to sticking with it. he was trying to respect my 'methods' but disagreed. we got the 'results' in a compliant child with a good schedule so then he talked me up to our friends.
when she was a toddler he'd say, 'why can't she just lie in here with us and sleep?' and i'd be all, "OH NO A ROD FOR OUR BAAAACKS!
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we're both much happier now. he also never smacked the children ever, even though he still has a more punitive mindset so far as consequences etc are concerned.